Your Weekly Wake-Up with AP
In today’s newsletter,
Six weeks ago today, at 7:43 am, while standing in the sliver of the good make-up light in my bathroom, filling in my brows, my entire world changed in about nine seconds.
As Siri read me the text, it felt as if oxygen no longer existed, and my bones were made of sand.
I froze.
My head was unsure of what my body was going to do next. My body, however, was hoping my head had some ideas.
Naturally, this brain-body confusion led to tears.
. Tears that have fallen from my face, every day, for six weeks. Tears that seem to come from a place inside me I didn’t know existed.
Since 2020 I’ve been teaching founders, entrepreneurs, creatives, and deep-feelers frameworks how to courageously bring their sh*it into the light, so it can be seen, healed, and released. So that they can then go create the best damn work they've ever produced.
Without these frameworks, accountability, community,
you will never experience the radically deep fulfillment that comes from feeling genuinely and wholeheartedly proud of what you've created.
You see, I am the coach others turn to when they need to LEAD while they HEAL.
while
After 6 weeks of heartbreak, I have 3 new things to add to my Heal + Lead Framework:
When you experience
(the first stage of emotional obliteration) you’re robbed of your ability to control when and how you can generate good work. Just like an infant – your brain is in charge, on its own timeline, and you’re simply along for the ride.
The quicker you sign on, and accept that you’ll only be able to work in the periods your brain is willing and open – the quicker you'll actually be able to generate worthy work.
Stop fighting it. Surrender to science.
I (adorably) gave myself exactly 5 days to “get it over it”. The next week I was surprisingly frustrated at my ability to focus, generate exceptional work, strategize, and lead.
I was determined to maintain the workload I was capable of doing before my world shifted. This foolishly went on for way too many weeks.
In hindsight… had I honored what Buddhist teacher
, and myself
teach, and honored
– I feel confident I’d have recognized the benefit of clearing my schedule
and just do the bare minimum until I was grounded – I'd have been able to return to my full capacity faster and with more ease.
When you STOP and center your healing you will be able to return to work faster.
Stop denying how much you’re hurting. Honor the sacred pause ASAP.
Because laughter is rare in these moments
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3 weeks ago while taking the train to Trento
At times I’ve felt like a drunk 6-year-old with a credit card and driver's license. Other times I've felt grounded, proud, strong, and clear.
What I know for sure is that
– I can finally breathe because
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There is nothing wrong with you or your big feelings. When you normalize your big feelings you WILL move through them faster.
Give yourself permission to heal in public. Let it get weird.
LET'S CUT THE BS TOGETHER
Life is extra hard for us deep-feeling leaders, artists, and visionaries. We demand and crave TRUTH, transparency, accountability, and community.
Sign on. Clear your schedule.
and heal in public.
So that you may get back to creating deeply fulfilling work.
If you’d like to share your craziest heal in public story w/ me respond to this message. I'd love to read it + will keep it in confidence.
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